Let's Face it Who Doesn't Like a Good Arse?

Hello Peeps, today I've decided to write about being a gentleman as I have so often heard people complain that there are no gentlemen in the world anymore. I disagree with that statement but I am aware that there are becoming less and less, and I can actually see why this is happening. My friends and myself admittedly act like three year olds when we're together; we deliberately embarass each other and just pretty much act like idiots waving at each other from ten metres away as if we've only just noticed each other. We are however for the most part old school when it comes to women in the sense that we try to act like gentlemen (don't take advantage of people and look after them). Last night was an example of this; my friends (Alex, Phil and Marie) and I had a night out in Canterbury. We had a meal and a few drinks at various restaurants/ pubs and noticed a bar called 'The Cuban', after a drink or two here Phil and Marie went back to their hotel room as they weren't feeling too great leaving Alex and myself to make fools of ourselves dancing the night away. The Cuban turned out to be full of incredibly attractive people and clearly we stood out from the crowd if you get what I mean ;P - Alex was looking dapper in a corduroy Ted Baker jacket and I was wearing clothes. Alex disappeared for a few minutes (just like Batman does) when I was approached by two women, (they must've noticed I was wearing clothes). We started talking and I found out they both went to one of the local universities; Alice was studying History & German and Laura was studying Drama (I could tell Laura is going to be a actress by how well she pretended not to be interested... I almost believed her myself). I made a short disappearing act myself and a man offered me his lolly in the toilets, luckily I was well trained in this field by my mother who told me not to take sweets from strangers and I refused the man point blank (yeah I'm pretty proud of myself :-) ). Shortly after returning to Alex, Alice and Laura, Laura showed off more of her acting skills by pretending to see some of her friends and asked me to make sure that Alice would be ok until she came back... she never returned leaving me in the awkward situation of standing next to a quickly escalating AA (Alex and Alice) partnership. Feeling like a AA spare part I decided to go back to the hotel and see if I could get a spare room (Alex and I had a twin room not expecting anything to escalate that fast). The walk back to the hotel was entertaining as I was asked for a dance in the high street by another attractive lady (yeah Canterbury is awesome), as I was reaching the car park of the hotel Alex rang me to say that Alice had become worse for wear; she had started to become incredibly drunk and was feeling sick. Alex took her outside for some fresh air and asked her to wait there until he returned with his coat so he could walk her home to make sure she got back safely. After Alex had collected his coat he went outside to find Alice only for her to have done her own disappearing act, he  re-entered the bar to see if he could find her and searched for somewhere between 30mins  to an hour until he didn't know what to do and asked the bouncer whether he had seen where Alice had gone and to look out for her if she stumbled passed. The bouncer then decided to get angry with Alex and blamed him for Alice wandering off saying it's not a bouncers job to look out for people (I'm sorry but if it's not a bouncer's job to make sure people are safe what is their job exactly?). Alex then returned to our hotel room and we tried to think of ways to try and find her (us being in a somewhat drunken state). We decided that the best bet would be to speak to Kent police via the non emergency number with the idea that they would have access to CCTV to find her as we were worried that Alice may be stumbling around alone in Canterbury. This turned out to be another mistake as it felt like the woman I spoke to was annoyed at us for taking so long in contacting them and kind of felt like we were being accused of something. So guys how many of you would've spent that  much time looking for her and then know the number off by heart to ring for non emergencies? (We needed to look it up) Effectively Alex and myself trying to do the right thing in trying to make sure someone is ok turned into Alex and myself feeling like crap for being blamed for someone we don't really know drunkenly wandering off by herself (admittedly me being me I would feel like crap anyway - If I think someone needs help I have a pretty much OCD like state in that if I don't at least offer to help/ can't help I feel like crap for days/ weeks/ months). Similar situations of me trying to help people/ be a gentlemen have led to negative reactions from people making it feel like it's better all round to leave people to their own problems and not care. I cannot personally do that due to the OCD like state I enter but for people who do not have that I can understand why they may feel the need to stop looking out for people. The other negative to being a gentleman is you quite often get 'friend zoned' as Alex likes to put it, maybe we're going about it all wrong but it does seem like men who act like arses seem to have more success with women then gentlemen do which is probably down to the confidence levels of the arse (let's face it who doesn't like a good arse ;P). Have you ever done what you thought was a good deed only for it to be thrown back in your face? If so what happened - you're welcome to blog about it and put a link in the comments section

Anyway that's all for now, I'm going to go and stew for a while

Much Love

The Weird Guy